Don't Count the Miles, Count the I Love You's

I’ve decided to not indent my paragraphs

for this entry in honor of Lucy. Why she doesn’t indent her paragraphs, I will never know but I thank God she doesn't because she helped inspire me to write tonight and that is something I haven't done, for sheer enjoyment, in a long time. So thank you, Luce, for your awesome entry and a reminder that it's not about what you write but why you write it. Another lesson I think I am learning is that people leave and it sucks but that doesn’t mean that they are gone forever.

When you leave or when people leave you, you can’t just give up on them and forget everything that ever happened between you. You can’t forget all of the fun times you had and you can’t erase the memories from your encoding. You

can’t repress your feelings of wishing you could be with them again—in the name of love, shenanigans or a never

ending life chat.

You have to be okay with the fact that in this modern world we have the joy of meeting people from everywhere in the world and the burden of being separated from them by landmasses and oceans.

You need to realize that communication is all

together good because it keeps us all intertwined through video messaging, text mess

aging, email, Facebook and all of the technological advances that are making good-byes turn into let’s stay in touch.

Loss, to me, always seemed like some sort of dead end. Once someone was gone, they simply could not remain a part of your heart or mind because it hurt too much to remember their absence. The only way to go from loss was back to where you started—before you met them and before they had a place in you as a person. So throw caution to the wind and allow the loss to come and change you.

Accept the loss—especially if you know its coming—as a challenge, as a testament to your friendship, to your bond, to your memories, to your love. Let the loss deepen your relations and open your heart. Take the pain from the loss and remembering that losing something doesn’t always mean forever and be glad that you even got the chance to have it for a brief moment in time.